HomeOn Wednesday I will begin an activity with some of you that will span several days. If you are planning on participating in the “Queen of Hearts” activity, you’ll need to complete this one first. I’ll accept the delay :)
For this activity you will need a small piece of soft, red cloth. You may obtain this cloth in several ways. You might purchase a fabric remnant or a small piece from a bolt at a fabric store. You may find something in your home that is soft and red (of course, you’ll need only a small square so you’ll have to cut it). You may purchase a soft red item from a second hand store and cut a piece from it. Or – you may come up with some idea of your own :)
This piece of cloth should be large enough that you can hold it in both hands while stroking its softness. It needs to be small enough that you can carry it somewhere on your person or in a briefcase. Think handkerchief size or a little smaller.
If you cannot obtain this piece of cloth by Wednesday, you may request a delay.
You will also need the first and second Surrender MP3s so if you do not have them, you will need to contact me. If you have not yet met the requirement of accessing these MP3s, I will need to know why. I may grant you an exception, I may not. It depends on your explanation and my feeling of benevolence ;)
This activity will center of service. Before we begin, I’d like to hear from you (in the comment section) – what does service in a D/s manner mean to you?
I’m excited about doing this particular activity so I hope you are as well.
~ Lady Julia
January 11th, 2010 at 11:18 pm
Lady Julia,
If I may, I’m going to have to delay this until next Tuesday. I’m going to be out of town until then and would like to give this experience the attention it deserves. If I can’t delay starting, then I’ll catch your next experience.
Regards,
cdbtoo
January 12th, 2010 at 4:18 am
cdbtoo, yes you may wait until then. I am looking forward to reading about your participation :)
JSL and CBMP, thank you for your responses :)
January 12th, 2010 at 6:52 am
Thank you Lady Julia. I’ll be able to start on Monday night if I can obtain the required fabric before I leave town. I’m looking forward to this experience.
Regards,
cdbtoo
January 12th, 2010 at 1:22 pm
Lady Julia:
Responding to yours, service, in the context of D/s manner, means sublimating the desires and needs of the submissive to those of Dominant. The redirection of focus can be evidenced by simple acts of usefulness to the Dominant and the performance of duties on behalf of the Dominant or at the Dominant’s direction.
January 12th, 2010 at 5:16 pm
Lady Julia,
I did not originally notice this posting but would like to request permission to participate. I did see the “Queen of Hearts” activity and you accepted my request.
If you decide to be benevolent (please oh please) I have the Surrender 1 and 2 mp3’s and I have also obtained a soft red piece cloth a little smaller than a handkerchief.
As I am on a mine site until Friday, I approached the warehouse where they have rags in 50lb bales that are used to clean up during repairs. I requested a soft red piece of cloth and managed to find it amongst in an open bale. The red is not perfect but it is pretty good and the cloth is soft! I explained that I needed it for “my Lady” as she was doing something and had requested me to get it.
Hoping that you will view my request to participate favorably, I have responded to your question:
Service in the D/s sense is an opportunity for me to demonstrate my respect and love for my ‘budding D’ wife. When she is pleased with my service I obtain an inner reward from just knowing that I have pleased her. As you have taught me “Pleasing feels so very good”.
The more challenging the service the more rewarding to me when ‘budding D’ is pleased.
January 12th, 2010 at 7:34 pm
Jay, I’d like you to begin this activity first, then the Queen of Hearts. I’ll be sure and pay close attention even though you’re delayed :)
“Please oh please” – you do remember how to ask :) Good boy :)
January 12th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
Thank you, John.
I’d like to ask you something else. How do you feel when you perform an act of service?
January 13th, 2010 at 12:40 am
Service in a D/s manner to me means suspending my own wants and needs in order to fulfill my Dominant’s needs and desires. That does not mean that I should gain no satisfaction from completing any task that may be required but that my pleasure should be secondary to that of the Domme. I feel that the submissive’s pleasure should come from the knowledge that they are pleasing the Dominant and not from any promised reward. The act for me is reward enough or at least it should be.
Thank you Lady Julia for giving me this opportunity and, with a nod to John, please oh please allow me to participate in this experience.
-Jason
January 13th, 2010 at 7:41 am
Lady Julia:
Responsive to your question above, there is a mixture of feelings, perhaps in part related to the nature of the service provided. Excitement, satisfaction, and sometimes resignation are among the emotions that I feel. Though not an emotion, there is a feeling of a need to concentrate on the task at hand in order that the requested service is adequately fulfilled.
January 13th, 2010 at 6:47 pm
Thank you, John. “Excitement, satisfaction, and sometimes resignation” is a nice way to put it :)
January 14th, 2010 at 6:15 am
Lady Julia,
I have the Surrender 1 and 2 mp3’s and I have also obtained a soft red piece cloth.
D/s
It is the feeling for me to be used, to the welfare of a Lady.
Suspending my own wants and needs in order to fulfill my Dominant’s needs and desires. Being perceived by her as a servant. The act for me is reward enough or at least it should be.
January 14th, 2010 at 3:40 pm
Lady Julia:
You are welcome. Dominance and submission involves a give and take. Providing service at another’s direction is an act of submission. Such actions are, for me, always attended by a mixture of feelings.
I think that JSL puts it well in his post, too.
January 14th, 2010 at 5:06 pm
John – I am very pleased by your insight and sincerity. Dominance and submission isn’t really about selfishness on either side, is it? The Domme must care about the wants and needs of her submissive every bit as much as the submissive should be concerned about hers. It’s simply that she decides when and how to meet his needs and maybe one of his wants. Ok.. maybe a few of them ;)
January 16th, 2010 at 10:33 am
Lady Julia,
Thank you for making it possible for me to participate in this activity.
I will need access to Surrender and Surrender II.
While waiting, I want to establish a baseline for my behavior: last night i sold part of my coin collection in order to take my wife out to dinner. I try to take her out on a ‘date’ about once a week, just to let her know how much I love her,and enjoy being with her.
Freemann
January 16th, 2010 at 10:52 am
Lady Julia,
I am not at all sure I understand service in a D/s manner. I backed out of one relationship with a hypnodomme because I felt she was asking rather more than I had agreed to give. I was dismissed from another because my Lady did not feel my behavior was submissive in the way she wanted. I rather suspect I am not submissive in the D/s sense at all, although I believe everyone is submissive, or deferrential, in social interactions with those he feels are superior to himself in some way that is significant to him.
Freemann
January 16th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Freemann, your words especially touched me. To sell something you treasure in order to do something so nice for your lady is really and truly sweet. She is a lucky lady.
With regard to service for a hypnodomme, I think you always have to be the one to decide what you can and cannot do. Well done for recognizing your boundaries and not ignoring them.
There are two reasons I sometimes focus on service: First, anyone who puts forth the effort to dominate their partner deserves to have their needs met as well. I’ve seldom met a woman that didn’t love to experience that special feeling of her man doing something for her for no. reason. at. all. other than as an outlet for and an expression of his devotion to her. Second, some fellas forget it isn’t all about them and their penises :) Generally as a rule, people who participate in an activity like this already “get” both those things, but it’s still a fun activity.
January 19th, 2010 at 6:43 pm
Lady Julia,
I’m back from my trip. I’ve procured said red item (it’s amazing how sensuously soft a red chenille sock can be). I’m beginning the experience tonight. I can’t wait to see how I progress in it!
cdbto
January 22nd, 2010 at 2:36 pm
I have access to the mp3s and bought a piece of bright red satin from cloth shop.
What does service in a D/s manner mean to you?
Trying to please the dominant in whatever way she would like me to, but not only that. I try to come up with some things that would please her, without her asking, so that I might surprise her positively. So far in my experience I enjoy doing things for the domme, even when they are not thing that I usually enjoy doing, because I know the things I do please her and I do like to please.
–Manet
January 22nd, 2010 at 3:25 pm
Manet, aren’t you already a very well trained boy? :)